When, after many years, you come to some understanding, you know that things are much worse than can be imagined, for just the reason that our imagination (anciently, a form of intuition and perception) arises precisely to hide the difficult things. The mind wishes to protect itself. The mimetic fury of the shared life, which people are conditioned to in modern socialization, relies on imagination and desire to obscure thought and understanding.
Live as deliberately as you can. The energies that attempt to carry you through experience exist to carry you past experience.
In short, homo, fuge!